I believe it’s about time we set aside the notion that you can’t give advice (sexual or non) to anyone who is older.There are all theses “taboo” or “white elephant in the room” subjects when it comes to talking with our mature parents — enough already — let’s open up the lines of communication. I also want to make sure we don’t forget a central point in this dialogue. In many cases those 50, 60, 70, 80, 90 years old and beyond now have a second chance that many of their parents did not have — they can reinvent themselves as a single person (and for you readers who said I looked “too young” to address this subject, I’m 45, but I greatly appreciate your comments! Another Huff Post reader commented: “This advice is as good for young as old now days.Why I chose to address the issue is simple: Sex is different today than it was in the past and it will continue to change with the times.Just as an example, the recently reported that more baby boomers are contracting sexually transmitted diseases than ever before, citing both the “Graying of America” demographically as well as basic physiological and psychological changes that occur as we get older.In the case of The Sex Talk, clearly, “approach and tone” are everything.It’s one thing to say, “Mom, I heard you’re dating again.I agree that one should never speak to someone with more life experience without recognizing and appreciating their wisdom.As a passionate advocate in the field of gerontology, this has always been my mantra.
When you were dating, your parents likely had you carry change for a pay phone — just in case. Mom wouldn’t have let you out the door wearing a micro-mini skirt or a skimpy bikini.
This blog is part of my special series called: Baby Boomer Dating Tips. And when you’re in your 40s, 50s or 60s it may seem next to impossible. Or emerging from a period of time where you were consumed with raising children.
Or caring for elderly parents or perhaps you still are responsible for children and/parents. You might feel like you don’t have the slightest idea how to go about flirting.
And an even larger percentage experience at least occasional trouble with achieving or maintaining an erection.
Fortunately, for many men, an oral medication taken shortly before sexual activity helps. Obviously regardless of age one can still get sexually transmitted diseases (although your parents may have referred to venereal disease, or VD, in their talks with you) and many unfortunately do. In the 2010 documentary film Catfish, the young star Nev Schulman discovered that the “attractive young dancer” with whom he had an online relationship was actually a middle-age mother of four.If your parent is at the point of seeking a physically intimate relationship, a discussion with the doctor might be in order. According to England’s Family Planning Agency (FPA), the number of reported cases of STDs among 50-to 90-year-olds has more than doubled in the past decade, perhaps due in part to the availability of drugs mentioned previously. If your parent is recently divorced or widowed remind them (as they may have frequently reminded you) that it’s not wise to jump into a relationship too quickly. If your parent is looking to meet potential love interests online, remind them things aren’t always as they seem on the Internet and to beware.